ABSTRACT
There were clear differences between the answers given by the happiest respondents compared to those given by the least happy, across all parts of the survey, from treatment to relationship and sexual matters. In order to break out of negative and self-reinforcing cycles, both partners need to work on changing what they each contribute to keeping things stuck. However, there is also a lot to be gained from simply changing people's mindset and what they pay attention to. Couples therapists call this positive attending, making a conscious effort to look for and notice the positive things that our partner is doing, rather than just going with the flow of our mood that makes their negative actions stand out more. The couples who have more sex tend to be more satisfied with their sex life. On the one hand, this isn’t surprising, but it probably also reflects that those who enjoy it more are also more likely to do it more.
