ABSTRACT

The dialogue is a special combination of listening and talking. The dialogue is a shared quest, a way of thinking and reflecting. Dialogue is something people do together. In a dialogue, the focus is on discovering something new together. The depth of a dialogue takes both the client and the counselor to a different level: learning and discovering goes back and forth. Wanting to console someone who has suffered a loss is a deeply human, primary need. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross introduced an approach through four quadrants to express the completeness of human beings in dialogue. These elements are given shape with words in dialogue: emotion; cognition; physical; and spiritual. Clients can get insight into their inner dialogues by examining which permissions and which injunctions they have accepted as becoming part of themselves. The dialogue is one of the most important, if not the most important, vehicles for counseling.