The middle stages of the treatment
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This chapter continues to explore the central injury more deeply, and its role in the marital tempest. For example, Rob, the architect, has almost uncontrollable anxiety about the possibility of carelessly ruining a consultation job, which would then undermine his career. This has never happened.
However, Rob’s father failed to take his work responsibility seriously. The father never sought a promotion and never saved for retirement. This led to great conflict with his wife and within a few years after leaving his job, they divorced. Shortly thereafter Rob’s luckless mother, contracted terminal cancer. The eldest, Rob, assumed all family decisions. Life can fall apart, which haunts Rob, although his own behavior differs so greatly from that of his parents.
As we continue to pursue the original wound for each of the pair, the couples also begin to encounter a specific present “challenge” which becomes the second focus of the chapter.
For instance, can Peter and Jean cooperate on building a summer house, a project that they’ve planned for years? If so, Peter will need to consciously cede some control to Jean, something that he rarely has done previously.
Chapter 5 is about applying what the couples have learned from their living wounds, to work more effectively on their particular challenges in the present and in the future.