ABSTRACT
This chapter looks at how to keep moving when failing or feeling like a failure. The ability to “get unstuck” or move on through failure is also called resilience. Resilience is a life skill and should be nurtured. In Building Resilience in Children and Teens, Kenneth Ginsberg and Martha Jablow point out there are seven “crucial C’s” of resilience: competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control. There are nine specific strategies that parents can use to help become their kid resilient. The first strategy for helping kids to get unstuck is to remind them of the past struggles and successes parents and other family members face, struggles of others and their own struggles. However, there are also four personality types that can impact how kids deal with a failure field: success-oriented, overstriver, failure-avoiding, and failure-accepting. There are specific strategies that are particularly helpful for each type.
