ABSTRACT
The traditional assumption was that all couples were monogamous and that an affair signaled the death of the relationship. Affairs (EMAs) are multi-causal, multi-dimensional, with large individual, couple, cultural, and value differences. EMAs can involve a range of emotional and sexual experiences. The majority of couple survive EMAs—the key is making genuine meaning of the EMA which is accepted by both the injured and involved partners. The issue of EMAs achieved prominence with the introduction of the concept of consensual non-monogamy (CNM). CNM can involve open relationships, swinging, or polyamorous relationships. Couples need to have a clear, specific discussion and agreement—monogamy vs. consensual non-monogamy. If they decide on a monogamy commitment (the most common decision) they need a specific agreement to promote healthy couple sexuality and prevent EMAs rather than take monogamy for granted.
