ABSTRACT
The literature on falling out of romantic love (FORL) has been minimal. Researchers and scholars have battled with the inconsistency in definitions, as well as the complexity of the topic. For these reasons, it’s fair to say the study of FORL is as daunting as taming the serpent beast.
The author has not only researched the serpent beast; she has spent decades smack-dab in the middle of the snake pit, working with couples and individuals who have fallen out of romantic love. She emerges from her work and research like a snake charmer, armed with empirically based data and scientific research to share with the reader, so they don’t have to battle the serpent alone.
Within these pages, the reader will understand the five common properties of FORL: Patterns; the point of no return; efforts made; emotional struggle; participant advice. Along the way, the reader will have the privilege of hearing personal accounts from research participants who have struggled with their own serpents.
Here’s an example: Nicole described her emotional struggle and tremendous guilt in FORL, saying, “He would do absolutely anything for me … I’m a terrible person because I have what most people would die for and … I don’t even want it.”
