ABSTRACT
In Chapters 2 and 3 we looked at, respectively, attributes associated with resilience and resolving to make yourself more resilient. This chapter focuses on non-resilient responding to your difficulties because of certain ideas you subscribe to and are reluctant to let go of (this is not an exhaustive list of them). These ideas are not fixed and ways to free yourself from them are discussed. These ideas can be present in the resilient-minded too and take hold for a while in certain circumstances, but the person sees eventually their self- and goal-defeating nature, expels and replaces them with productive attitudes and actions. As a coach, you can pinpoint your own non-resilient ideas and decide if you want to hold on to or change them.
