The couple as joint personality goes through a mid-life crisis just like any individual. For all her collusion over the years, Estelle, too, was finally prompted by some hidden part of her self to face up to the falseness of her life. All these methods of individuation are healthy, wholesome developments in the human life cycle, but when one partner’s mid-life agenda for the marriage conflicts with the other’s it can prove very inconvenient! Selena’s individual therapy helped her understand and accept responsibility for her choice of partner, rather than blaming him later for being boring. Selena and Sandy fairly uneventful, seemingly contented marriage has now reached its middle years. Eventually, the couple came for a brief period of therapy, after which Selena was referred to her own therapist. Janice and Jake were getting to the stage where the sex act was a bit of an effort.