ABSTRACT
Counselling about change, but no one changes in isolation. It is important to recognize that progress will not be even or regular. There will inevitably be times when one will drop back, but this does not mean one has gone all the way to the bottom again. The saying “No man is an island” is well demonstrated in counselling. One's increasing independence and confidence can be hugely liberating, but it can also dramatically affect a relationship or the way one is perceived by others. This can sometimes be problematic. The process of inducing acceptance at home or at work that one has changed can therefore be quite taxing. Where close relationships may have been at risk, the other party may frustratingly insist on hard evidence over a period that the changes in one's thinking and behaviour have a solid foundation.
