The need to kill oneself
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The urge to kill oneself is more widespread than realized. It even may be a "normal" part of life. Freud wrote of conflict between drives to die and live, a destructive drive aimed against self and displaced to others. To call the urge to kill oneself normal seems an exaggeration, a distortion. Some people feel in more active control and speak of killing off thoughts, feelings, self. Some feel more passive and in awe of processes beyond control. Ella came to sense active and passive tendencies of self inextricably mixed. Nick, in contrast to Ella, was a control freak, obsessed with being an active agent. He needed to be top dog in personal interactions and could not bear being passive. He feared being dominated and associated passivity with subservience. Nick began feeling suicidal as self-encapsulation began to break up. Therapy gives people time and space to notice ways that suicide happens as they go on with their lives.