ABSTRACT
This chapter focuses on a specific class of phantasies which affect people's relationships with each other. Phantasies of putting parts of the self into others and taking over parts of them are very important indeed. Each may use the other to express a hidden part of the self; in phantasy they may actually feel they have handed it over and no longer need feel any responsibility for it. The phantasy 'getting rid of' or 'lending out of' feelings is helped along by provoking behaviour of some kind to make sure that the other behaves in a way which fits the phantasy. The excessive need to watch over or control others which arises from these phantasies may itself be denied in the self and 'seen' in others. The conditions under which people can help each other are interesting and complex. The process begun as a normal method of trying to make phantasies more realistic may instead 'confirm' their exaggerations.
