ABSTRACT
The paradox of separation with children is that the broken union must continue to exist within a post-divorce family unit. Adjusting to divorce is a very real phase that requires particular attention. The implications of divorce go well beyond the relationship between the two participants. The problem is that toxic retaliatory actions can easily poison a post-divorce relationship and limit capacity to function for some wider cause such as children. Where children are involved and custody disputes erupt, the loss of control can add substantially to the impact crater of divorce. Divorce creates social divides particularly when there are hard feelings and continuing conflict or controversy. Psychotherapy is a treatment and is best administered by a health professional or equivalent with the required training. Where symptoms or repetitive failure in relationships are dominant features then psychotherapy as compared to counseling is likely indicated. Symptoms could include anxiety, insomnia, excessive weight loss or gain, deep insecurity, despair, suicidal feelings and preoccupations.
