ABSTRACT
In this chapter, the authors distinguish self-acceptance from self-esteem: self-acceptance is unconditional – no strings attached – whereas self-esteem is conditional. If reader base their worth on certain conditions being present in their life and one of these conditions is absent, such as reader putting on a lot of weight during a prolonged illness, reader likely to activate their negative core beliefs from their dormant state and they’ll give reader hell: ‘reader repulsive. The authors believe that one of the major blocks to change is low frustration tolerance, i.e. reader want to achieve their longer-term goals but ‘throw in the towel’ when reader encounter setbacks, frustrations, discomfort; in other words, reader not prepared to endure. Tolerance means reader willing to allow the existence of other opinions which reader might be passionately opposed to but without having to accept or like them; if reader find someone’s opinion or behaviour objectionable, then argue against it but without condemning the person for it.
