Sometimes grief and loss show up as a crisis of meaning. Performance coach, Sir John Whitmore, devoted an additional chapter in the third edition of his profession defining book Coaching for Performance and labelled it “coaching for purpose and meaning”. The midline is the ideal happiness point that balances our requirements for a spiritual and psychologically balanced journey towards the higher self. A key emotional intelligence competency for all coaches is empathy. There is a difference between sympathy and empathy as well as compassion. Empathy is not imagining how you would feel in the other person's situation; it is entering this person's world by listening to them so well that you accurately pick up their thoughts and feelings. Some people are often taught from an early age that sad, painful negative feelings are not appropriate.