ABSTRACT
I miss my mother. I reflect on why we say such hurtful things to those we love most. This is about human communication – emotional and biting. At university I had been taught all about the double bind and the schizophrenogenic mother and the role of conflicting and contradictory communications in generating aberrant behaviour in the recipients of these messages. Now I’m a psychologist and I can evaluate the evidence for myself to see what is true and what is false. This is the power of education. This is why she worked so hard for all those years in the mill to send me through school. This was my privilege, which I somehow took for granted.
