In the aftermath of our relationship, we worked cooperatively to separate our finances, to share the material things we owned together and to plan how we would co-parent. We continued to misunderstand each other and clash, but year on year we do better. Our son has no memories of living with Mummy and Daddy. Without wasting our energy on fighting with each other, we have both had more to give him and he has thrived, his time is split equally between us.