ABSTRACT
Josiane Apollon shares her clinical and personal impressions after her dyadic data analysis and conclusions on compassionate love (CL) within Black couple systems. This is followed by the relevance of the study and the implications for the future of research on CL for intimate relationships. The chapter presents how an inquiry leading into the discovery of the other’s world cannot be made with the same eyes as we question our own world. The author, inspired by Proust, suggests choosing “new eyes” and a new attitude, a new perspective, new beliefs, new interpretations for new creative solutions to emerge from our collective consciousness, tapping into the ancient healing power of CL. Notably, the chapter highlights a solution from the pioneer in Strategic Family Therapy Cloe Madanes’s 15 steps and four love dimensions for healing and reconciliation of sex offenders and their families, not their division. The author believes that these strategic steps on what worked best for sexual attacks and spiritual violations can help heal human systems, the same way the seven resilient Black couples’ success stories mapped their transformative adaptation strategies within couple systems through loving beyond the multigenerational transmission of pain into individual balance and relational resilience.
