ABSTRACT
This chapter sums up the author’s thoughts on the landscape for Bi+ married men and his hopes for the future. The author begins by reframing the decision to come out as bisexual, positing that it is less about whether or not someone experiences attractions across the gender spectrum and more about whether or not someone views those attractions as important to their identity and politics. It is a cultural choice about your comfort with “normalcy” versus a drive to stand out, subvert expectations, and challenge authority. The chapter then discusses how to find Bi+ community and why this can help increase overall visibility and effect change. The author, who is also a television writer and content creator, discusses the state of Bi+ representation in media and what type of stories are missing. Finally, this chapter offers advice for Bi+ people and especially Bi+ married people, which is to focus on the journey and not fear the outcome. Sometimes a relationship must be risked in order to live authentically within it, and marriages should be judged not by their longevity but by the quality of attachment and ability of each partner to be seen and loved as their true selves.
