ABSTRACT
The only carer in our sample who is currently being cared for commented in the following way about different perspectives of the carer and the person being cared for: ‘I think in other words, when you’re being cared for your priorities are completely different from those when you’re not being cared for. You’ve got to change your attitude towards life and everything.’ As we indicated in the last chapter, part of the explanation for a mother’s uncooperative behaviour may lie in the fears induced by her physical deterioration and in the fact that these may not be adequately recognized by her carer. Similarly, many of the problems the daughter experiences in the caring relationship are attributable to her fight to balance priorities between work and caring, or other family and caring, as well as to tensions arising from the internal dynamic between mother and daughter.
