Building a picture of themselves is perhaps an even better time to decide who people are and live it in reality rather than just in their idealistic fantasy world. Being familiar with their own personality preferences and the preferences of others helps people understand a host of things about themselves – how they like to communicate, make decisions, energise themselves, arrange their daily life and so on. Being clear about their personal values helps people to make better, more appropriate choices in later life – choices that both feel right and make complete sense to them. Not everyone wants to look like Iris Apfel or Quentin Crisp as they age, and there is no rule to say the only way older people will be noticed is if they are wearing very unconventional, brightly coloured clothes and accessories. Some people like to do physical activity alone; others like the support of doing it in a group.