ABSTRACT
When I sit with someone in therapy I invariably have the experience of knowing things about this person and the way in which she relates to the world before anything is spoken. This awareness, that necessarily needs to be tempered with doubt, might surface as soon as I meet with her in the waiting room, may surface just as she begins to form her words or could develop over time with reflection. There are times where, with care, I share an apparent tangential awareness or image that presses strongly for me as we sit together and even though it might sound a little crazy or irrelevant to me as I form the words my sharing often lands with a powerful resonance for the client. Whilst I might like to think that I have a special and unique ability I don’t for one moment believe that this is the case, rather that the client also knows stuff about me. This insight that we may call intuition or sensing is created between the other and myself. It is not my ability or her ability but a relational ability created between the client and myself in our respective fields of relations and though each of our fields of relations are unique in their nature they invariably have more commonality than difference. What might appear to be magic is simply an openness between therapist and client, the book allows itself to be opened for the reader to read. Our neurological pathways including mirror neurons are playing a part in this process but to reduce human attunement and understanding to a single system is both reductionist and disrespectful of the complexities of the multi-layered laminated phenomenal field.
