An assertive approach to sexuality is especially helpful, as this potentially difficult subject is relevant to us all. There is an illusion in society today that, as the display of sexuality becomes increasingly overt, people will be more able to speak honestly about it. The reality is that we often feel too embarrassed and inhibited to even broach the subject — secrecy surrounds the whole area of sexuality. As therapists, we need to acknowledge that this reality may exist both for our clients and ourselves.