ABSTRACT
This chapter explores how children typically develop and respond to the language of feelings and behaviour and how the words we use can influence this. In learning to manage their feelings and behaviour, children begin to talk about how they and others show feelings about their own and others' behaviour and its consequences. One of the ways that we can develop their shared understanding about behaviour is to consult them and listen to their views. The chapter presents an example of how one setting found the words to tackle a familiar problem and to involve the children themselves in changing things for the better. Joint training events with both parents and staff are excellent ways of developing ideas together and working in partnership. This approach would not have worked unless both sides had worked together. Narratives, stories and metaphors are powerful ways of helping children to think about behaviour and engage with change.
