ABSTRACT
This chapter explains the signs and patterns in which the people are struggles to manage stress, they suffer bereavement, they find themselves in personal dilemmas and family conflicts all without the added burden of chronic shame. Dissociation is one way to escape the pain, some clients experience shame only in completely dissociated states. In the decade of the 1980s, addiction and shame became firmly linked in the literature of the recovery community. The dysregulation experienced by a person severely traumatized as a child is not a unique kind of dysregulation, but it is exceptionally severe and constant. Meanwhile the author of this chapter Patricia feels little connection between our emotional selves, our right brains. Internal shamers and internal shamed selves are by definition in a dysregulating relationship; whenever they meet, the event is as profoundly dysregulating as it was when it first happened in the outside world.
