ABSTRACT
The author deals with his pre-marital couples in the categories that involve loyalty issues with in-laws, parenting/co-parenting issues, financial differences, division of daily labor and personal time, and differences in life goals. He provides resource for books and articles that may help couples to make better decisions regarding these issues. He examines how to include more specific help that is relevant to each client's needs. One common mistake clinicians make when doing pre-marital counseling is to offer a generic pre-marital counseling program to all their clients. In pre-marital counseling, it can be very helpful to discuss the division of labor at work, at home, and regarding childcare. The author talks about relationship advocate who listens to their problem and tries to help that person make positive decisions that will improve their relationship. He describes the model that the author see is where the couple has separate bank accounts for different financial needs.
