Joining feminist movement before the author had even had her first sexual experience with a man, She was stunned by the intense hatred and anger towards men that women expressed. Within patriarchy heterosexist bonds were formed on the basis that women being the gender in touch with caring emotions would give men love. And in return men, being in touch with power and aggression, would provide and protect. Rather than specifically challenging patriarchal misguided assumptions of love, it just presented love as the problem. In actuality, we should have been spreading the word that feminism would make it possible for women and men to know love. While many of us were coming to love in our private lives, a love rooted in feminist practice, we were not creating a broad-based feminist dialogue on love, one that would counter a focus on those factions within feminism that had been anti-love.