ABSTRACT
This chapter shows that self-acceptance is one of the most important concepts that therapists can teach their clients to help them avoid rating the self which is implied by self-esteem. Clients describe themselves in global terms: an image of the self as a whole person, not a differentiated flexible appreciation of varying qualities or aspects of the self. Global ratings of the self can never capture its complexity or totality. Self-acceptance means looking at oneself in the round by acknowledging one's positive qualities and shortcomings and attempting to change the latter if so desired; and often reminding oneself that human fallibility cannot be eradicated but that incidence of fallible behaviour reduced by learning from one's mistakes to make fewer of them. Self-acceptance greatly reduces the frequency, intensity and duration of experiencing negative emotions. The client kept a 'can-do but not always' diary to note his accomplishments and record his difficulties without despair or self-condemnation.
