ABSTRACT
I think that you first uncover [the past] by suffering and causing a great deal of pain. Unconsciously, you repeat, in situation after situation, the devastation of childhood. Again and again, you find yourself running against the same spear, and the spear keeps going right through the same wound, widening it and making it more and more painful. Eventually, if you are lucky, you come to understand that there is something very damaged about the way you envision yourself and with the way you love, and you begin the long process of healing.
