It's Bigger Than Both of Us
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Meanwhile the reaction of men has ranged from an honest attempt to understand and accept the feminist perspective as valid and important to angry backlash and a yearning for the days when women were soft and submissive. The traditional middle-aged or older male feels betrayed by a wife who no longer wants to fulfill the original contract born out of the stereotypical male role of provider/protector and female role of nurturerl caretaker. He is faced with deprivation when she no longer provides for his personal needs and is both infuriated and helpless in the face of her demands which he perceives as uncharacteristically self-serving. He responds with
depression and passive/aggressive maneuvers designed to thwart her efforts at independence and self-actualization. This traditional man cannot understand why anyone would want to change the former system of complementartty because it worked so well.