Why stress can make us nasty
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A client described walking down the road on a balmy summer’s afternoon. She noted how others were scurrying back to work. She, though, was now on holiday and after seeing me she was going to meet her best friend and they were going away for the weekend. She told me how she felt an excited tingle, how her breathing had deepened and she was experiencing a warm glow inside. She described her mind returning to childhood memories, particularly of her mother, of how safe and enjoyable life felt when her mother would take her away, how she remembered those times as if the sun was always shining. These are newly refound memories; in fact her mother had died tragically when she was just nine, casting a dark shadow over her life from which she was only just recovering. Today she found herself smiling at people and was surprised that they smiled back at her. She realised that she had given money to a beggar almost without thinking. In her session she recalled her mother’s quietly kind gestures to a neighbour in need. The world felt good at this moment, imbued with love, hope and wellbeing. It is in moods like this that we are far more likely to be open to other people, sympathetic, compassionate and also generous and helpful. Our own wellbeing generally does not run counter to that of others.