ABSTRACT
This chapter explores real-life questions and issues that lesbians have about dating, sex, love, and relationship longevity. The author think that many relationships are doomed from the start and no matter how hard you work at them, they're going to fail. On the other hand, she also thinks that many more relationships could succeed if only we worked harder at them. The problem lies in knowing the difference. And that, of course, is easier said than done. She has been developing a concept about a 'good enough relationship'. This concept is a work in progress. He hesitates to call it a theory, a model, or even a tool because he resists theories, models, and tools as they apply to human relationships. He feels this way about my connection with Maureen much of the time. He has no doubt about my love for Maureen or hers for me. Our connection feels deep, rich, and satisfying.
