ABSTRACT
This chapter addresses the fact that the highly normalized, not to say institutionalized, practice of seduction stands in a relationship of tension with the principle of consent, in so far as it is about getting a person to want to have sex who does not initially express such a desire. To what extent should one respect another person's expressions of unwillingness at the very first stage of an attempt at sexual interaction? Is it legitimate to continue one's efforts of seduction or is that incompatible with the principle of consent? From a consent perspective, it seems reasonable to conclude that one should back off at the slightest sign of unwillingness and this is a standpoint embraced by some interview participants. However, others talk about how, depending on context, it may be acceptable to insist as part of the seduction process. The analysis highlights the duality of humans’ capacity to be affected by others, showing that this affectability is both a key foundation of good sex and a factor that makes us vulnerable to harm.
