ABSTRACT
This article examines nonmarital romantic relationship dissolution and the effects that a breakup may have on the self. Previous research explores potential reasons for dissolution, including differences in needs or expectations, differences in dependency, satisfaction and commitment in the relationship using the investment model, quality of alternatives, and inclusion of other in the self. People tend to experience emotional distress post-dissolution. Variables like closeness to the ex-partner and time after dissolution may impact the emotional distress, as well as individual differences between partners like attachment style and gender. Ultimately, breakups may force one to re-evaluate their self-concept, which may cause confusion and increase distress. Although romantic relationship dissolution can be traumatic, it can eventually lead to positive growth for the self by rediscovering the true self and gaining new coping skills and insights for future relationships. Research highlights the use of writing as a healthy coping mechanism post-dissolution that may help lead to positive growth for the self.
